Amanda Enayati’s “Facebook: The Encyclopedia of beauty?” brought the terms insecurity and poor leadership to my attention. Dina Borzekowski indicates, “Social networking sites are part of the ubiquitous media landscape that shapes what children come to know as society’s body ideal.” Although this statement has been proven to be true, the main concern should be focused on the internal self rather than the outside world. To support my claim this article indicates that Facebook may either increase or decrease self-esteem and confidence. I would conclude the increasing and decreasing of self-esteem derive from the “successes” or “failures” of others. But, what do humans consider to be failures or successes? Every human being is different, and some may find both the failures and successes of individuals to be inspiring in order to avoid mistakes or keep moving forward with their goals and dreams. At the end of the day, it is all about an individual’s level of attitude and confidence.
Moreover, humans place themselves in positions that may be hard to steer away from in the future. For example, no once forces us to download and continuously browse a Facebook or Instagram app. When possessing these apps, it is all about deciphering what the external world wants us to see and who we truly are. Additionally, the situation worsens when leaders such as parents and celebrities with heavy influence over the masses do not speak up to assist those with insecurities and lack of confidence. Byrne indicates, “It’s a problem when perverse behavior is rewarded by people you trust and relate to.” Whether we believe it or not, those who we form a connection with have heavy influence over us. If those whom we possess a close relationship or connection with, tolerate the negative aspects of our thoughts and behaviors, then we will continue to dwell in those judgments and actions. However, if our role models correct or assist us with our issues, we will develop internally and gain respect for those individuals.
Another concern from this article is that it seems to somewhat blame thin or “skinny” girls, and their comments on Facebook rather than insecurity itself. For example, you could not help it if others want to be or look like you. Just because you look a certain way, does not mean you will cease from posting pictures of yourself, for fear of insecurity and depression from others. What about thinner girls who are called “skinny,” “anorexic,” “bony,” “hungry,” etc.? Do they not have feelings too? Are those names not equivalent to being called “fat” or “overweight?” No matter what shape or size you are, everyone’s feelings matter. Furthermore what is the perfect image? And why?
If we learn to love ourselves and not worry about the outside world, remain happy for successes, and compassionate and supportive for the trials of others we would be much better off. The question remains: In what ways can we fight insecurity, and ignore negativity while loving our neighbors regardless of their situations? “Once we realize our own strength and importance, once we see the ways we’ve been hurt and can feel for ourselves on a deep level, we can actually start to break free of the chains that hold us back.” – PsychAlive